Comments on: Grief, Loss and Change http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/05/16/grief-loss-and-change/ musings from the far side of gender Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:14:39 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: transition, discovery, grief, and loss: part one. « [insert witty pun here] http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/05/16/grief-loss-and-change/#comment-7 transition, discovery, grief, and loss: part one. « [insert witty pun here] Thu, 26 Jul 2007 12:47:42 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/05/16/grief-loss-and-change/#comment-7 [...] that discussion, though, i’ve done more reading on the subject and wish i could rewind/redo those few minutes. my decision to publicly transition rests largely on [...] [...] that discussion, though, i’ve done more reading on the subject and wish i could rewind/redo those few minutes. my decision to publicly transition rests largely on [...]

]]> By: grieving http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/05/16/grief-loss-and-change/#comment-6 grieving Fri, 13 Jul 2007 12:25:09 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/05/16/grief-loss-and-change/#comment-6 Thank you so much for this post. This is the first place I have found that talks about the other side: the people who are left behind and the relationships that might never heal or be the same. and the profound sense of loss and grief that happens when (in my case) a co-worker transitions in the workplace. A person with whom I have worked very closely these past few years has (to my mind) suddenly announced that I must address her as him from this day forward. I could not put my finger on it until yesterday, but the feeling I have is not anger, it is not phobic...it is deep grief for the loss of the person i thought I knew, but apparently will not know anymore. Comparatively speaking, in the workplace, there are many resources and rights afforded to the person who is transitioning...there is very little available for the people who, by law, have to accept (immediately) this change or run the risk of being seen as discriminatory or worse hostile. Thank you for speaking about this. It helps tremendously. Thank you so much for this post. This is the first place I have found that talks about the other side: the people who are left behind and the relationships that might never heal or be the same. and the profound sense of loss and grief that happens when (in my case) a co-worker transitions in the workplace.

A person with whom I have worked very closely these past few years has (to my mind) suddenly announced that I must address her as him from this day forward. I could not put my finger on it until yesterday, but the feeling I have is not anger, it is not phobic…it is deep grief for the loss of the person i thought I knew, but apparently will not know anymore.

Comparatively speaking, in the workplace, there are many resources and rights afforded to the person who is transitioning…there is very little available for the people who, by law, have to accept (immediately) this change or run the risk of being seen as discriminatory or worse hostile.

Thank you for speaking about this. It helps tremendously.

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