Comments for Wandering Aloud http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com musings from the far side of gender Thu, 23 Oct 2008 06:16:42 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Just Another Day by Arlene http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2008/10/09/just-another-day/#comment-21 Arlene Thu, 23 Oct 2008 06:16:42 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/?p=54#comment-21 I have also been wondering about you. I'm at a loss for words but please take care of yourself. I have also been wondering about you.

I’m at a loss for words but please take care of yourself.

]]> Comment on Just Another Day by capriceb http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2008/10/09/just-another-day/#comment-20 capriceb Sat, 11 Oct 2008 05:09:00 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/?p=54#comment-20 I'm glad you posted this. I've been wondering about you. You talk about being poorly designed. Personally, I don't think we were designed, with or without intelligence. We're here by random chance (the universe is a mighty big place, so all kinds of unpredictable stuff happens). We might as well make the best of it. I wish I had some specific help I could give you for your career situation, but I've been out of the industry for nearly 5 years now. Hang in there, Caprice I’m glad you posted this. I’ve been wondering about you.

You talk about being poorly designed. Personally, I don’t think we were designed, with or without intelligence. We’re here by random chance (the universe is a mighty big place, so all kinds of unpredictable stuff happens). We might as well make the best of it.

I wish I had some specific help I could give you for your career situation, but I’ve been out of the industry for nearly 5 years now.

Hang in there,
Caprice

]]> Comment on No beach to walk on by bentcrude http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/12/03/no-beach-to-walk-on/#comment-19 bentcrude Sat, 13 Sep 2008 08:58:12 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/12/03/no-beach-to-walk-on/#comment-19 pardon the spam, but if you'd like to share your coming out story i'd be delighted.. http://excloset.wordpress.com/about/ pardon the spam, but if you’d like to share your coming out story i’d be delighted..

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]]> Comment on Wanting what I have by crossdressgirl http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/wanting-what-i-have/#comment-18 crossdressgirl Sat, 23 Aug 2008 04:46:05 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/wanting-what-i-have/#comment-18 Hi hon, looks like you haven't posted in a while. How are things going? I know it's hard when important things aren't discussed with those you love. Perhaps they love you so much that hurtful conversations are so much more indimidating? Hugs, Vanessa http://www.crossdresserheaven.com Hi hon, looks like you haven’t posted in a while. How are things going?
I know it’s hard when important things aren’t discussed with those you love. Perhaps they love you so much that hurtful conversations are so much more indimidating?

Hugs,
Vanessa
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]]> Comment on Plain and Simple it Ain’t by nexyjo http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/04/02/plain-and-simple-it-aint/#comment-17 nexyjo Sat, 01 Mar 2008 05:36:12 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/04/02/plain-and-simple-it-aint/#comment-17 "<i>I always pass and never pass at the same time: always as a man or woman – never as me. As much as I might want to be a woman ‘plain and simple’, I need to be me ‘plain and simple’ – and I cannot seem to figure to how to do that.</i>" i don't know that there is a way to do that - society forces gender upon all its occupants without their permission. it's part of the world in which we live. there are no gender neutral alternatives to "sir" or "ma'am". that said, i've come to terms with the fact that i can't be without gender, but it seems to work better for me to live in society being seen as a woman while feeling myself to have no self-perception of "me" as a gendered being, than being seen as a man. it's certainly not a perfect situation, but it was a vast improvement. “I always pass and never pass at the same time: always as a man or woman – never as me. As much as I might want to be a woman ‘plain and simple’, I need to be me ‘plain and simple’ – and I cannot seem to figure to how to do that.”

i don’t know that there is a way to do that – society forces gender upon all its occupants without their permission. it’s part of the world in which we live. there are no gender neutral alternatives to “sir” or “ma’am”.

that said, i’ve come to terms with the fact that i can’t be without gender, but it seems to work better for me to live in society being seen as a woman while feeling myself to have no self-perception of “me” as a gendered being, than being seen as a man. it’s certainly not a perfect situation, but it was a vast improvement.

]]> Comment on Riding the Long Island Railroad by Trans Blog » Blog Archive » Feelings or Actions, Condensed http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2006/12/02/riding-the-long-island-railroad/#comment-16 Trans Blog » Blog Archive » Feelings or Actions, Condensed Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:33:01 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2006/12/02/riding-the-long-island-railroad/#comment-16 [...] commuter railroad conductors mark the gender of passengers on their monthly passes. My friend Donna has experienced this on the Long Island Rail Road, and last week a blogger named Bobby posted his experience from the [...] [...] commuter railroad conductors mark the gender of passengers on their monthly passes. My friend Donna has experienced this on the Long Island Rail Road, and last week a blogger named Bobby posted his experience from the [...]

]]> Comment on Jane Magazine features Raci Ignacio by caveswami http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/04/30/jane-magazine-features-raci-ignacio/#comment-14 caveswami Fri, 28 Dec 2007 20:27:22 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/04/30/jane-magazine-features-raci-ignacio/#comment-14 I live in LA Westside and was moved by your story in transgeneration I just saw on LOGO, I'm a 40 yr old male, been married and divorced, I'm bi, but very much in the closet. If you're ever down and need a supporting e-mail, or if you're still in school and need someone to send you a couple of gift certificates to dinner somewhere in LA, not too expensive, just e-mail me. Bless you for the courage to share your life and make it a little easier for the rest of us!! :-) I live in LA Westside and was moved by your story in transgeneration I just saw on LOGO, I’m a 40 yr old male, been married and divorced, I’m bi, but very much in the closet. If you’re ever down and need a supporting e-mail, or if you’re still in school and need someone to send you a couple of gift certificates to dinner somewhere in LA, not too expensive, just e-mail me. Bless you for the courage to share your life and make it a little easier for the rest of us!! :-)

]]> Comment on Riding the Long Island Railroad by Conductor Confusion « Wandering Aloud http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2006/12/02/riding-the-long-island-railroad/#comment-13 Conductor Confusion « Wandering Aloud Tue, 02 Oct 2007 00:56:04 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2006/12/02/riding-the-long-island-railroad/#comment-13 [...] I have posted about my adventures Riding the Long Island Railroad - wherein each month I get to see what gender the conductor thinks I am. So far this year, my [...] [...] I have posted about my adventures Riding the Long Island Railroad – wherein each month I get to see what gender the conductor thinks I am. So far this year, my [...]

]]> Comment on About by Alice http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/about/#comment-12 Alice Wed, 26 Sep 2007 15:39:01 +0000 #comment-12 I can relate to your story far too much... Genderqueer is a good path to follow and to openly say it at work is a wonderfully brave thing to do. I hope to do similar when i get to uni. x I can relate to your story far too much…
Genderqueer is a good path to follow and to openly say it at work is a wonderfully brave thing to do. I hope to do similar when i get to uni.
x

]]> Comment on Pronoun Ping-Pong by nexyjo http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/09/21/pronoun-ping-pong/#comment-11 nexyjo Tue, 25 Sep 2007 18:00:51 +0000 http://wanderingaloud.wordpress.com/2007/09/21/pronoun-ping-pong/#comment-11 i wrote about this very topic <a href="http://transadvocate.com/nexy/2007/07/18/choices/" rel="nofollow">here</a> after reading little light's post <a href="http://takingsteps.blogspot.com/2007/07/search-and-seizure.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>. i wrote about this very topic here after reading little light’s post here.

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