Profile posted at work

The following is the text of the profile posted on my firm’s internal LGBT website.

I joined [the firm] as a full time employee in October 2000 as an Assistant Vice President in IT after working as a consultant here for a year and a half. Prior to working for [the firm], I worked for about twelve years as a consultant, primarily to the financial services sector, for firms such as Chase Manhattan, Morgan Stanley, Solomon Brothers and Moody’s Investor Services. A graduate of Hofstra University, I have a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science and a minor in Philosophy. Originally born in Queens, I live on Long Island with my wife of nineteen years and our two daughters.

By the year 2000, I reached a point of self acceptance — something which I never had before. I accepted that I am Transgender: I always have been and always will be. What this means for me is that although I was told I was a ‘boy’ (and destined to become a ‘man’,) I do not identify as one. Looking back on my life, I never felt comfortable in that role regardless of how hard I tried. I realized that this is what was behind so much of the anxiety I had felt all my life.

While I do not identify as being a ‘man’, neither do I identify as being a ‘woman’. ‘Woman’ is perhaps closer to how I feel, but it too is inappropriate. I choose to identify as Genderqueer — not having any specific ‘gendered identity’. To the question, “Are you a man or a woman?” I reply, “Neither… I am simply a person.”

From 2000 on, it has been a gradual process of learning how to be true to myself in all aspects of my life: personal and professional. Primarily, this has meant coming out as a transgender individual — a task not without its problems. I have found the culture here at [the firm] to be very supportive, making it that much easier for me to live a life wherein I am true to myself.

Outside of work, I do my best to reach out to others in the Transgender community and help them better understand and come to terms with what being Transgender means. With little in the way of organized support, I see it as being up to us to take care of and support our own. There were others there to help me when I needed it: I feel I have a responsibility to do likewise.


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