Friday, March 31st was International Transgender Day of Visibility. The premise is simple: be out there, visible, and proud to be trans. Many people ‘come out’ for the first time – or reaffirm their status as a member of the greater transgender community. The idea is that greater visibility can only help us to be […]
Category Archives: Musings
My poor sad neglected blog… I have had such good intentions – so many things I have wanted to say… But I cannot seem to be motivated to write them up. I am hoping that this entry will be the reboot – my opportunity to start over… Time will tell. So what has happened […]
So I got my nails done last week. For the past five years or so I get a manicure every two to three weeks. It started with just clear polish, giving my nails a nice clean look. Eventually I moved up to getting clear Shellac (a UV cured gel type polish) which has the advantage […]
…which has not been shown love in over a year. I have things to say, thoughts to share – I’ve just been lazy about it. Maybe lazy isn’t the right word: unmotivated is a better one. I had lunch with a friend last week. She’s transitioning after many years of telling herself why she couldn’t […]
… that’s what is said about a picture. More telling than any narrative, a picture has the ability to lay bare the truth of it’s subject. Sometimes, that truth is more than we want to know or accept. I was kind of excited for our holiday party this evening. Enough so that I went and […]
Hurricane Sandy has come and gone, leaving a mess in her wake. Some were pummeled, others hardly effected. At my home, this is the state of things at the moment: We are on our fifth day without power. We lost it Monday at 3:45pm EDT.
In 2007, I posted The Impossible Human, where I discussed a bit how transpeople continually are forced to assert the reality of their existence – to assert that they themselves actually are people.
I was Googling my blog name when I came across this: http://twitoaster.com/country-us/katebornstein/sorry-correct-link-to-last-tweet-is-an-article-on-genderqueer-as-philosophy-vs-identity/ It seems that Kate Bornstein tweeted a link to my blog page about being genderqueer… And I find it two years later. Like I said, I’m a bit slow at times. But still… How absolutely f’ing cool is that! 😀
Leaving work the other evening, I ran into a woman with whom I ride the train in the mornings. We have chatted casually a few times – not so much to really be ‘friends’ per se – but enough to be friendly. She was waiting for the E train when I saw her and I […]
“Objects in the rear view mirror may appear closer then they are.” A great Jim Steinman / Meatloaf song full of over-the-top angst wherein the singer reflects on moments of his younger days. We all have memories we tuck away and all but forget about – but now and then something stirs them and it […]
I’m standing on the subway platform, waiting for the E train – my iPod blasting Pendulum – when I notice a woman talking to me. I turn to her and pull one of the earphones out. Still unable to hear, I remove the other and put my iPod in my bag. “Your eyebrows look great” she […]
For several months now, I have been going every few weeks to get a Shellac manicure at a salon by my home. It’s a pretty typical place doing hair, waxing, nails, etc. and I have become a regular customer there which is a nice feeling. I sit down and Dana (the nail tech) commences to […]
Friday morning, second week of January 2010 : I’m in the cafeteria when I see her. She is in her early twenties, jaw-length bob, perfect makeup, wearing a bright blue cowl neck sweater, leather skirt coming down just above her knee, a wide black belt, dark tights and classy heals. I can hear her as […]
Here it comes, another lonely day, playing the game. I’ll sail away on a voyage of no return to see if eternal life is meant to be and if I find the key to the eternal dream… I could find hundreds of lyrics and quotes to express my feelings and still it would only scratch […]
There are many things about which I do not allow myself the luxury of contemplation. I keep these things tucked away in the back of my thoughts, covered with whatever I can find in the hopes that they will remain forever hidden from me. I do this because to consider these things – to bring […]
Over at the Women’s Space/The Margins blog, there has been a discussion going on – the primary focus of which is transpeople. While the comments are related mostly to transwomen, the overall tone seems to be one of distain for transpeople in general.
Nothing triggers dysphoric anxiety quite like the idea of having do the suit and tie thing for some ‘formal’ event…
The other day, while waiting on the platform for the PATH train, a young Chinese woman approached me and asked for directions. I helped out and as we were both going in the same direction, I told her I’d let her know which stop was the one she wanted. We got on the train and […]
This is sort of an adjunct to the previous post on respect: similar theme, slightly different take.
2006 was an eventful year for me. In January, I decided to go back ‘on-line’ after having left Usenet and the like for about five years. I was pleased to find that people were interested in what I had to share and that I was able to share what I had learned over the years […]